Birth Story and Motherhood

TTT: Tell us a bit about yourself?

A: My name is Aisha. I have two children Nova 4 and Ryan 3. We are from London born and bred. We are an active family my son enjoys playing football and my daughter loves nature (i.e. plants, small creatures) and exploring.

TTT: How has your motherhood journey been so far?

A: Before I had children, I just believed I couldn’t have children. It’s a strange thought, I know but I’d never been pregnant and I never used female contraceptives. So, when I finally got pregnant in my mid-20s it was a big shock to me. I felt worried and over-protective because I didn’t want a miscarriage.

The first trimester of the pregnancy wasn’t noticeable to me; no symptoms. The second trimester, the more noticeable symptoms began, and I was eating a lot more. The labour was easy for me, the baby came out fairly fast, not much pushing but it was scary for me as it was my first time.

For my second pregnancy, I didn’t know I was pregnant until I was 3 months gone. When I went for a scan the baby was healthy and the pregnancy progressed without morning sickness and nausea until the labour. I had a pool birth which helped me a lot with the pain and the baby came right out without much pushing.

From newborn to toddler stage to present, I’ve had some good days and bad days. Each day is a challenge. I do miss having a newborn and taking walks in the summertime with them in their pram. Now they go out on their scooters and I am trying to keep up with them. I enjoy seeing them growing up together and doing different activities together.

Race and Culture

TTT: What is the racial mix of your children? And What does being mixed race mean them?

A: My children are Dominican and Chinese-Vietnamese. My son is too young to notice he is mixed raced. Although, he does notice that mummy is different from daddy due having different hair textures.

My daughter has a feeling she is mixed raced but she doesn’t understand what that means to her yet.

TTT: Do you ‘celebrate’ all your family’s heritage in your daily life? If so, how?

A: The children celebrate Chinese New Year with their grandparents. They usually have traditional Chinese cuisine, giving out lucky money and attending The Chinese Festival.  We also attend Caribbean celebrations including Notting Hill Carnival and the Creole Festival.

I plan to take the children to each country of their heritage when they’re a bit older, so they can fully absorb who they are.

The Future

TTT: What is your biggest wish for your children?

A: My biggest wish for the children is to see them happy in whatever they choose to do. I will always advise them and guide them along but will never push them if they are truly unhappy.

 Get Social

Aisha manages Nova and Ryans’s Instagram pages. You can follow what they get up to on their exploits.

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